How to Politely Indicate Adults Only on Your Wedding Invitations
Paperia | January 2014
Indicate Adults Only on Your Wedding Invitations
There are a number of reasons why some couples choose not to invite children to their wedding. Some common reasons for an adult only wedding are: space limitations, venue restrictions, and budget constraints.
The decision to have an adults only wedding may be simple, but communicating this with your guests is another story. How can you tell them, clearly and respectfully, that their children are not invited?
Traditional wedding etiquette dictates that you should never include this information in writing anywhere on your wedding invitations. The traditional solution would be to recruit friends and family members to relay the message to your guests who have children via “word of mouth.”
For those of you seeking a more tangible solution, here are some other tactful approaches:
- Add inner envelopes to your invitation suite. Leaving off the names of your guests’ children on the inner envelope will indicate that they are not invited.
- Get creative with your response card. Write in the invited guests’ names on the “M____” line before sending them out to underscore exactly who’s invited. Or, you could include the phrase “Total number of adults attending ___ .”
- Write it on your wedding website. Be sure to include an insert card with the link to your website within your invitation suite.
You know your guests best. If you are concerned that one of these subtle tactics will be overlooked, you may want to consider adding a more direct phrase to one of your insert cards. Something along the lines of: “Respectfully, an adult occasion” would do the trick.
But – be warned. Because weddings are widely regarded as a celebration of the merging of two families, some guests may not understand nor agree with a couple’s decision to exclude children. Be prepared to face resistance, if not full-blown opposition. The best thing you can do in such situations is to politely explain, yet firmly reiterate, your wishes.
Have you ever hosted or attended a kids-free wedding? How was it handled?